Monday, July 5, 2010

Casper, Saran wrap and me?

Casper, the friendly ghost . . . that was my first thought when I kept hearing all this about “transparency”. Like, am I a ghost? Scary thought. Or clear plastic wrap, see through. I heard one comment after another, “I just love your transparency” and again “gosh you’re so transparent” and then I started to worry about this. Is it like no one can see me? I feel like that often, like no one sees me or cares about me. Then I thought I must be making a fool of myself, again! I seem to have that foot and mouth disease. Often I open my mouth and then insert foot. I will just be talking and suddenly I am aware of a strange quiet, an intense look. It makes me feel funny, like I am quite the oddball. When once again I was cruising toward a poor decision, a close friend really leveled me. She said that the course I was taking was perfectly understandable but it didn’t seem like me. “I have always been able to see God through your trials and tough decisions”, she commented. “I don’t know if I could choose the tough things, take that narrow path, but because of you I see how to live better. You have shown me God just through your life”. Oh my, was I humbled at that. I guess that’s what it means to be transparent. Oh, it still hurts. It still feels awkward and unpleasant. Right up until I get past the funny looks and embarrassment and see that others are hurting too and look to me to see if my Jesus is enough to help me through triumphantly – and He sure is!







Considering all my options, it seemed like getting dentures was the best choice for me although I felt it was another step into old age, right after my gray hair, trifocals and age spots. Soon would be a cane and then I will be carted off to the nursing home . . . Oh well, the decision had to be made. I thought I could just stay out of sight until I was healed and perhaps no one would notice. Of course, the first thing on my agenda in the public eye execrated me from my hibernation and landed me in front of a large group of women as the chairperson doing all the talking. In my usual enthusiasm, I got carried away making a point and, yes you can see it coming, my new teeth went flying. My mind was wildly searching for a Bible story that I could relate to. Come on now you would think there was a story of the ground opening up and letting someone off the hook? After recovering my teeth and what little was left of my decorum, I got through the meeting. I really wanted to head for the door and my car and home to hide right after the closing prayer but I was obligated to greet and do follow-up. It was then I finally remembered how God works all things together for HIS good as I encountered not one but several women who were about to go through the same thing and I was able to minister to them.






Back to the clear plastic wrap or bottles & clear containers, I like to use them the most because I can see what I put in them. I can also see when things turn green and need to be tossed out! Can it be my prayer that I can be so see-through that God will use me more and that others can see God through me – AMEN!

Thursday, April 29, 2010

I LOVE MY CLUTTER!

I LOVE MY CLUTTER!!




I do not want to hear of another program about “decluttering” – I have banned Clean Sweep and How Clean is Your House and all those others. I have purged my home of every magazine with headlines screaming about Decluttering and Organizing!!! 



I do not want to live in a decluttered, sterile atmosphere. My clutter is me. My personal touches, mementos and souvenirs may look messy but I love it. There are several small vignettes, I feel tastefully displayed and occasionally lit up with little twinkle lights and they make me HAPPY!



I may be a little messy, but then so is my life. And yes there’s a good deal of dust, makes me think of heaven and fluffy clouds. Seriously, I keep a fairly clean house but there are dust bunnies and perhaps a few dishes in the sink but my friends are always welcome.


Friday, March 26, 2010

Pines Trees and Easter






Ever noticed the Pine tree crosses on Easter Sunday? Pine trees start their new growth in the weeks before Easter –if you look at the tops of the Pine trees two weeks before, you’ll see the yellow shoots. As the days get close to Easter Sunday, the tallest shoot will branch off and form a cross. By the time Easter Sunday comes around, you will see that most of the Pine trees will have small yellow crosses on all of the tallest shoots...

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Mom paycheck

I feel being a stay at home Mom is the highest calling and well worth the investment until they start school at least. A hard thing though is not getting a paycheck which seems to validate me. Here is the answer found of course on the internet. Click here: http://swz.salary.com/momsalarywizard/layoutscripts/mswl_newsearch.asp and actually get a pay stub reflecting what a Mom is worth in the job market. Of course the Bible says in Proverbs 31:10 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.

Monday, March 22, 2010

7 Ways Stress Can Actually Be Good for You

This is great!
See a few reasons why worry, anxiousness and pressure is actually not bad
By Sarah Jio from WomansDay.com

Everyone dreads the S-word—and for good reason: Too much stress can have negative health consequences, like weight gain and depression. But, we’re often so focused on battling stress at work, in our relationships and everywhere else that it can be surprising to hear that some of that anxiety may actually be natural and normal. Even more, it might even be there to help you be healthier, happier and your ultimate best self. Strange? We thought so too, until we talked to health experts and found out about the many ways that stress can actually help you. From boosting your immune system to helping you get fit, read on to learn about the benefits of having a little stress in your life.

1. It can help you be more creative. Ask any writer or artist about the creative process and she’ll tell you that her best work often comes as a result of a lot of head-pounding frustration and borderline agony. There’s a reason for that, says Larina Kase, PhD, a Pennsylvania-based psychologist and the author of The Confident Leader: How the Most Successful People Go from Effective to Exceptional. “Stress often precedes or accompanies creative breakthroughs,” she says. “If our minds are totally calm and relaxed, they don’t need a reason to see things differently. We’re likely to feel an increase in stress when we hit on a new path because change is typically associated with new stress. Your creative output feels intimidating because it’s different for you and you don’t know how others will react [to it].”

2. It may be good for your immune system. Research has shown that the immune system may benefit from short bursts of stress that elicit our “fight or flight mechanism.” (Think of the stress you’d endure while taking a timed exam, running a race or playing a game with a timer.) “Stress in short bursts can be helpful to the immune system,” says Mark Goulston, MD, a clinical psychiatrist and author of Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior, who explains that when cortisol (a.k.a. the “stress hormone”) is released, it increases immunity in the body. But, he says, it’s a delicate balance. While these so-called bursts of stress may keep your body strong, vibrant and maybe even healthy, Dr. Goulston warns that too much stress can lead to cortisol overload, which can contribute to abdominal obesity. “This type of central obesity is linked to developing cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes mellitus and cerebrovascular disease,” he says.

3. It may help you get fit. Lifting weights, running or spending 45 sweaty minutes on the exercise bike are all forms of stress on your body. But it’s good stress, says Jessica Matthews, MS, continuing education coordinator for the American Council on Exercise (ACE) and ACE-certified personal trainer and group fitness instructor. “The stress that moderate exercise provides is quite healthy and provides many positive effects,” says Matthews. “From a physiological perspective, the demands being placed on the body during exercise help it to become more efficient in completing everyday activities. Regular exercise has also been shown to reduce the level of stress hormones in the body, such as cortisol, while simultaneously increasing the level of endorphins in the body, resulting in that ‘feel good’ sensation. In fact, research has even shown that exercise itself may make us more resilient to stress overall.”

4. It may help with problem solving. Are you experiencing stress from a dilemma in your life or from having to make a big decision? This type of worrying may actually be beneficial. Here’s why, says Dr. Kase. “Stress illuminates our values,” she says. “If we didn’t care about something, we wouldn’t worry about it.” So, listen to what your stress is trying to tell you. “Research shows that we tend to be happiest when we go with our gut,” she says. But excessive worrying can sometimes backfire. “It’s hard to hear your intuition when you’re in a cycle of worry and stress, so give yourself a break—take a long walk, get a good night’s sleep or go out for a bite to eat.”

5. It may keep your kids safe. According to some experts, mothers who feel more stress may keep their kids out of harm’s way (after all, if you’re more concerned about kidnappers, you’re more likely to keep a watchful eye on your toddler at the playground, right?). In fact, research from Johns Hopkins University has suggested that children of mothers who showed elevated levels of cortisol during pregnancy were developmentally advanced compared to children of mothers who exhibited little stress. Of course, everyone knows that a mom who is too stressed out is never a good thing, but a little stress in motherhood is natural and normal, say experts. “If stress can increase your alertness, that's good,” says Dr. Goulston, but be wary of hyper-alertness or hyper-vigilance, which can cause people to become “brittle and rigid, which can lead to impulsive behavior.”

6. It may get you a raise. Putting in long hours at the office? Feeling jumpy every time your boss walks into your cubicle? Sure, serious job stress can be unhealthy—even debilitating—but the kind of stress that keeps you on your toes in your professional environment may be good for your career, say experts. “An optimal level of stress and anxiety keeps you energized, focused and motivated,” says Dr. Kase. “Without enough stress, you’re unlikely to give your full effort and you may also be prone to making mistakes. If you’re too comfortable, that can be a sign that you aren’t pushing yourself outside your comfort zone and taking the risks necessary to advance your career, such as marketing yourself or asking for a promotion.” But, she adds, be careful how you control your on-the-job stress. “Successfully handling stress is the number-one way to build your confidence in your work and in any other area of your life,” she says. “Too much stress saps your ability to see innovative solutions and takes a toll on your energy and efficiency.” Dr. Kase also says a few warnings signs that indicate your job stress is too high include avoiding important work activities because you find them too stressful, or feeling like you are not valuable in the workplace.

7. It could keep you healthier after a surgical or medical treatment. Recent research has shown a link between short-term stress before a surgical or medical procedure and a more successful recovery experience. And it appears that a fighting spirit can also help in the battle against breast cancer. Some research indicates that stress may suppress the production of estrogen, a major player in the development of breast cancer. Whether this holds true across the board is questionable, but experts say it’s another important example of how stress isn’t entirely bad. “Our stress response is our being alerted to a challenge, a danger or even an opportunity,” explains Dr. Goulston. “Stress also triggers adrenaline release, and a surge of adrenaline can help you focus and think more clearly.”
All photos by Shutterstock.
Sarah Jio is the health and fitness blogger for Glamour.com. Visit her blog, Vitamin G

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Random Thoughts for the Day

1. I think part of a best friend's job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die.
2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.
3. I totally take back all those times I didn't want to nap when I was younger.
4. There is great need for a sarcasm font.
5. Was learning cursive really necessary?
6. Map Quest really needs to start their directions on #5. I'm pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.
7. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.
8. I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind of tired..
9. Bad decisions make good stories.
10. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren't going to do anything productive for the rest of the day.
11. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don't want to have to restart my collection...again.
12. I'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes - I always doubt myself.
13. "Do not machine wash or tumble dry" means I will never wash this thing I have-- ever.
14. I hate when I just miss a call by the last ring (Hello? Hello?), but when I immediately call back, it rings nine times and goes to voicemail. What'd you do after I didn't answer? Drop the phone and run away?
15. I hate leaving my house confident and looking good and then not seeing anyone I know the entire day. What a waste of makeup.
16. I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.
17. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.
18. Why can't every computer I touch have MY office bar on it?
19. Seriously, people have got to learn the difference between a web address and an email address . . .

Saturday, March 20, 2010

IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER

IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER - by Erma Bombeck(written after she found out she was dying from cancer).I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.I would have talked less and listened more.I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.' There would have been more 'I love you's' More 'I'm sorry's.'But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute.look at it and really see it . . live it and never give it back. STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!!! Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.

Friday, March 19, 2010

T-shirt quilts


In 1999 it fell to my son Joshua to design the T-shirt for the cross-country team in high school. It seems like yesterday! He chose a brilliant tie-dyed design and splashed across the front was "W2K". Everyone was concerned about what would happen at the turn of the century but I was curious as to why he chose the popular phrase for the shirt until I saw the back. Emblazoned across the back read "because it's shorter than a 4K'. There are several of those T-shirts from schools, clubs and vacations that may have faded from favor as everyday wear but still have a place in my heart and memories. They are pretty easy to convert to a cuddly blanket or pillow if you can sew a straight seam on a sewing machine. I am awestruck with admiration to those who craft beautiful quilts, works of art really. My quilts are fashioned from memories and old clothes, making something new and useful from something old or of little value. When I was young I remember making a tie for my dad out of leftovers from whatever I was making. Poor Daddy! This was the sixies and the fashion was very bright and bold from fushia to chartruese. He bravely wore each one.



When a favorite piece of clothing wears out or (more common of late) doesn't fit, I can cut out pieces and simply sew squares together and eventually have a warm blanket. I love to keep the temperature low and cuddle with a quilt and a cat. Here is a link to my favorite website about making a T-shirt quilt. http://www.straw.com/quilting/articles/teequilts_how.html
I think the heavy fleece fabric makes a good backing. I also use the same square to make into pillows using old pillows I find at resale stores.

Blank Slate

God has given me a blank slate for a bit so I thought I would try and take some time to write on this blog and hopefully edify my young friends sharing some things I have learned along the way. I will put up info on making a T-shirt quilt, my laundry prayers and another I saw online and whatever else comes to mind or you request! I have been blessed greatly by my "Titus 2" woman who still speaks into my life and keeps me on track and plugging along so I guess it's my turn to allow others to learn from all that God has allowed in my life, good and bad. So, may my words be like apples of silver and in accordance with sound doctrine as I teach what is good.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

103 Verses tell of God's love for me!


Psalm 33:5 He loves righteousness and justice; the earth is full of the steadfast love of the LORD.

Nehemiah 1:5 And I said, "O LORD God of heaven, the great and awesome God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments,


Ezra 3:11 And they sang responsively, praising and giving thanks to the LORD, "For he is good,for his steadfast love endures forever



2 Chronicles 20:21  "Give thanks to the LORD,for his steadfast love endures forever."




2 Chronicles 7:3 When all the people of Israel saw the fire come down and the glory of the LORD on the temple, they bowed down with their faces to the ground on the pavement and worshiped and gave thanks to the LORD, saying, "For he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever."





Deuteronomy 7:7  It was not because you were more in number than any other people that the LORD set his love on you and chose you, for you were the fewest of all peoples,






And nothing will ever separate you from my love again ~ Romans 8:38-39







Numbers 14:18'  The LORD is slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love








You may not know me, but I know everything about you ~ Psalm 139:1
































For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed ~ John 17:26





















Because I love you with an everlasting love ~ Jeremiah 31:3































I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus ~ John 17:23































Cracked Pots



The Cracked Pot - Author Unknown -
A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on the end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots was perfectly made and never leaked. The other pot had a crack in it and by the time the water bearer reached his master’s house it had leaked much of it’s water and was only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his master’s house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you.” “Why?” asked the bearer. “What are you ashamed of?” “I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.
The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, “As we return to the master’s house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.”
Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some. But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so again the pot apologized to the bearer for its failure.
The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of your path, but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you’ve watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master’s table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house.”
Each of us has our own unique flaws. We’re all cracked pots. But if we will allow it, God will use our flaws to grace his table. In God’s great economy, nothing goes to waste. Don’t be afraid of your flaws. Acknowledge them, and you too can be the cause of beauty. Know that in our weakness we find our strength.